Be sure you’ve watched the video first before reading below.

This is a tough situation that Discernment Counseling might be helpful with. We can

help you clarify what has to change if you are to stay in the marriage, and we can help

you make that clear to your spouse in a non-antagonistic way. We can also help you

figure out what you would need to change in yourself in a healthier marriage in

the future.

Here we get a little murky. If you are really low on hope, Discernment Counseling

is by far the best approach to gain clarity and confidence on what got you to this

point and the work both of you have to do individually if there were to be any real

momentum for your marriage.

If you have hope, motivation and energy for a serious round of couples therapy,

belief that things could improve, and you’re willing to look at your role in the

dysfunction that is going, on you may do okay going right to couples therapy.

Overall, if you’ve taken this quiz and are demoralized, Discernment Counseling is the

next best step. Keep in mind it’s a short-term therapy so please, don’t let location

hinder you seeking this help. I am available for folks who chose couples therapy after.